⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ out of 5
If you've read any of my other recent book reviews, you'll already know that I start them all off by saying the same thing - that every book starts off with the full load of 5 stars and I'm always hopeful that they will all be stuck firmly in place. You'll also know that I'm not shy about removing stars but that I always give my reasons within the review, they don't just disappear.
I'm definitely a people pleaser/fawner - will this book help me to overcome it?? It's one of the longer books that I've read so far but I'm not gonna rush through it, it takes as long as it takes and I hope it'll open my eyes and maybe help me to learn to look out for me a bit more than I have done so far in my life... right now that feels selfish and other people always come first and I'm always last, but that's not right so I'm hoping that this book will help me to find a better, more rounded personality and make me less of a pushover/be able to say "no" occasionally.
I was approved by the publisher to receive, read and review an ARC of this book, about 6 weeks before publication and I can't wait to get started!
There's a little box at the start of the book saying that it's an uncorrected proof, which is good to know and I won't mark down any spelling mistakes or errors in the alignment or whatever, I'll just assume that they will be corrected by the time the book is released.
Wowsers! It feels like the author has climbed into my body and put everything I think and feel into black and white... I finally feel understood!
I'm 10% of the way through and I'm totally gobsmacked that my responses to pretty much everything has a name and that I'm not the only person to be feeling and doing this!
There have been a couple of trademarks used (at least I *think* they're trademarks) and I'm not sure about the legalities of usage of trademarks in non-fiction so I reckon I'll leave the star on and keep my fingers crossed that it's the right decision on my part.
One of the points at the end of the "Caretaker" points has hit the nail squarely on the head for me, even now as a 47 year old! It says "Other people's needs are more important than my own" and that is exactly how I've felt my entire life!
Ooh! The NICER idea has struck a chord with me... I just need to remember what each of the letters stand for lol
I'm up to 50% now and I feel heard for the first time in my life... I feel like someone has reached inside me and gone "yep, a definite fawner here!"
At 60% and stopping for lunch... this book, so far, has been what I've been needing to hear for the last 40 years.
This book is finding all the little hidden pockets in me that I've buried all my life and it's offering a reassuring hand saying "you're OK, we're in this together, you're safe and I won't leave you".
I've just finished it and I feel heard and understood at long last! I'm not weird or a push-over or even a people-pleaser, I've been a fawner my whole life and this incredible author has given me the courage to be able to start to say "no" and even start to set boundaries for the first time in my life!
This book is a definite must-read for *everyone* whether you're a people-pleasing fawner or not!
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