Saturday, 21 August 2021

Book Review: "Listen: How to Find the Words for Tender Conversations" by Kathryn Mannix

Kindle version:  

Hardback version: 
⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ out of 5


Like with every book I read and review, this one is starting off with the full 5 stars too and I'm hoping that it'll not only finish with those 5 stars, but I'll learn how to sugar-coat sensitive conversations too.

Let's get started!

OMG!  Where has the afternoon slipped away to?  I wrote that paragraph (and sentence) 69 pages ago and haven't stopped reading until now.  This is a fantastic book so far!

Done it again... currently at page 114 and I haven't even stopped for a drink or wee all afternoon which is soo unlike me!  lol  This is a serious must-read for everyone and still a very solid 5 stars.

Just 10 more chapters/sections/whatever they're called in non-fiction to go and I'll be able to put this review up.  For now though, I'm stopping reading for the night and I'll be back reading as soon as I can tomorrow.

I really am enjoying this book... I don't wanna say too much about it otherwise it'll spoil it, but it's a definite must-read, even for those who think they are great listeners already... I'm learning so much from this book and I'm so glad I was approved to read it in advance of it's publication.  I'm grateful to the publisher and to NetGalley for providing me with an ARC of this book in exchange for this review... I'm loving what I'm reading and can't recommend it highly enough to you all!

Oh boy, just read about death and now about grief... this is gonna be heavy and prolly upsetting, so make sure you've got plenty of tissues and support available before you read these bits!

One sentence, more than any other single sentence in this book, has just said everything I've been trying to say all my life but the sentence says "Surrounded by people but with no one to hear us can be a place lonelier than isolation." and it describes how I've felt my whole life!  I'm surrounded by friends who reach out to me when they need a bit of support that I'm more than happy to provide, but on the rare occasions I need support too, I'm totally alone.  For the last two years on Facebook I've had mini melt-downs each December but I've been told by people  I thought I could trust to "take it down and put it on your blog instead" then that's literally it for another year.  I've tried reaching out on a depression forum but nobody replied on there so I've tried reaching out to friends and I get less than a couple of sentences of support before it goes back to me supporting them.  If I did that to them they would call me selfish and break off our friendship.  I really am surrounded by people but with no support I really am feeling lonlier than complete isolation.

I'm currently sat here sobbing my heart out... the pages I've just read have been so understanding and it feels like they were talking straight to me.  Thank you to the author for those pages... they mean a lot to me.

Late morning this morning!

I'm usually awake and down here before 5.30am, but I didn't even wake up until 6.09am this morning!  Didn't wake up at 3am needing a wee either, despite drinking 500ml after I'd taken my pills, so that was a good surprise.


I've run the virus scan, made breakfast, taken my morning pills and was all prepared to go and water the tomatoes until Steve said it was raining, so the Green Man is watering them for me instead this morning.  I was then gonna make a start on the news, but there wasn't any, so I can make an early start on yesterday's book reading and reviewing... can't remember what it was about though, so I'll have to re-read the last couple of chapters to bring me back up to speed with what's been happening that I've forgotten.


Steve said he doesn't fancy doing the washing up "so it'll have to be MugShot's for lunch, sorry" so I'll be making both meals again today... Steve's cooked for us 3 times this week though, which is one more than normal, so I suppose I should be more understanding.


Friday, 20 August 2021

Finished reading for the night now...

...so I'm gonna take my last two pills of the day and head to bed.  Based on yesterday, I'll be awake and desperate for a wee again before 3am though... I just hope that I fall back to sleep as quickly as I did this morning!

 

Gonna sign off for the night now, but I'll be back bright and early again in the morning.  Nite nite orl.

 

Sorry for the lack of posts this afternoon, but...

...I've been reading an awesome NF book that I've barely looked away from all afternoon!

 

I won't finish it tonight, but hopefully it'll be up at some point tomorrow... it's a solid 5 stars atm though, and a must-read by everyone!

 

Lunchtime curry photo on 20th August 2021

We've just had a huuuge lunch of vegetable curry and the chef (Steve lol) did too much again, but that's OK, he just needs to keep adjusting until he finds the right level in the mug is all.


Here's today's lunchtime photo:


It's all mixed in 'cos that's what we both do with our curries anyway, so might as well do it in the pan before it's dished up 🤷


News on 20th August 2021

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I dunno what I did to...

...make it work, but my FitBit app is working properly again now, for the first time in about 3 days, so I'm gonna finish charging it up (even though I only did it yesterday lol) then put it back around my ankle and carry on with the news.

 

Breakfast on 20th August 2021

Very nearly forgot to take this morning's photo!  That's why there's a granola-less part where the spoon is lol


 

Mornin' all

How are you all doing today?

 

My FitBit app still isn't syncing, so I'm removing it then hopefully getting it re-paired to see if that works, if not then I'll see if there's an update to the app and if that doesn't work I'll contact FitBit support.  They were fantastic last time and they know their devices better than me after all!

 

I remembered to charge up my watch and take my pills this morning and I've got my third glass of water on the go atm, which is 1.5 litres in about 2¼ hours.

 

I've cared for my carer for over 2 hours already too, so it's gonna be another mammoth day of caring and I bet he won't want to do the curry for lunch, despite agreeing to it before I put it on this weeks menu and has agreed a few times since then too. 


Time to make a start on the news now I reckon, while I'm waiting for things to go wrong with my FitBit!


Nope, he's just woken up, so I'd best go and do his breakfast now - might water the tomatoes while he's in the bathroom first though.


BBL.


Thursday, 19 August 2021

I've pased today's caring target and...

...I've just taken my last two pills - one of 'em jumped out of the packet though and I had to get my carer to help me to find it when he came back from his wee, so that's another minute or so of caring for me today and I'm currently at 10 hours 23 minutes of care for him today, so we'll see if either of us care for one another before I head to bed.  I'm glad we got to over 10 hours again today and we're at 40 hours 40 minutes of care for the week, which my OCD is happy with, so if I don't care for my carer any more tonight then I'm OK with that.


Prolly won't post again tonight, so I'll say nite nite to you all now and I'll see you at some point in the morning.